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“听你安慰完，我难受多了”| 3种无效安慰方式

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核心导读经常有读者好奇，心理咨询里是否存在一些神奇的语句，可以瞬间起到安抚的功效。

#  “听你安慰完，我难受多了”| 3种无效安慰方式

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**最后的话**

经常有读者好奇，心理咨询里是否存在一些神奇的语句，可以瞬间起到安抚的功效。

我很理解大家的好奇，毕竟咨询听起来很像是“安慰”和“被安慰”的另一种形式。

但我想说的是： **并不存在一秒安抚好对方的话术。**

心理咨询的大多数时刻，都是来访者借由叙说来整合、梳理自己的遭遇，而咨询师要做的则是倾听、陪伴、引导、回应。

叙事疗法里有个观点，叫 **「相信每个人都是解决自己的问题的专家」** 。

我想，好的安慰也是建立在这一点的基础之上。

今天的漫画，并不是在苛责大家在安慰时不许犯哪些错、要严格按照方法来，而是想传递给大家这样一个观念：

**不要把需要安慰的人，当成一个亟待解决的问题；**

**要把需要安慰的人，当成一个徐徐展开的奥秘。**

如此一来，无论你说什么、做什么，你都能自然而然地安抚到对方。

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